A piece of something I wrote on Facebook not too long ago: “It is not wrong for a baby to be attached to her mama.
I am all she knew for the first 9 months of her life. My heartbeat, my voice, my movement and sounds. When she came earthside she laid on my chest to hear that same heartbeat. She is allowed to have a safe place, to run to or cling to me for comfort, she does not have to be comfortable and happy in every situation - are any of us? I am happy to be her comfort, support, safety, whatever it is that she needs, for as long as she needs. It is not unnatural for her to need that. So please, when she cries and reaches for me but stops crying when she’s in my arms, don’t say “that’s not good” or “she needs to break that habit”, there is no reason to make a child believe that she can’t rely on her mother. And when you ask where she sleeps, or how long she sleeps, don’t shame an infant or child for wanting to sleep near, or with, or on their mama. In the nicest way, it’s not your concern.
Can we just work together to end the stigma around attachment parenting? Agree that it’s not an awful thing for babies to need their parents or for parents to listen to their needs and keep them close? Sure, there are countless studies that show the benefits, mental health especially, of these parenting techniques if that’s what you need, but I think just seeing a happy and confident child and mama is enough. Maybe it wasn’t or isn’t your thing, but let moms be moms in their own way.
All the love 💖”