I’ve always lacked self-confidence! A feature I resent in myself. I don’t even know where my low self-esteem comes from but I’m working hard to overcome it. I noticed we always depend on opinions of others around us. We care what others think and say about us, even when we try to act like we don’t.
Yet, If we tried to please everyone around us, we’d lost our own identity.
Low self-esteem often begins in childhood. Teachers, friends, siblings, parents, and even the media send us messages about ourselves, both positive and negative. For some reason, the message that you aren't good enough is the one that stays with you.
Lacking confidence is something that stands in our way of achieving our drams and doing what we truly want. Sometimes we don’t even set goals, because we believe we will never attain them. People look down on dreamers because they themselves fear to dream big, because it’s easier this way not to get disappointed.
To boost your self-esteem, first identify the negative beliefs about yourself and challenge them.
If you think you're "too stupid" to find a better job, for example, or that "nobody cares" about you, start to note these negative thoughts and write them down. Ask yourself when you first started to think these thoughts. Next, start to write down evidence that challenges these negative beliefs: "I'm really good at supporting conversations on various subjects" or "My friends write me all the time!”. Also, I feel like confidence is gained though accepting and learning to love ourselves with all of our imperfections in flaws. I’m not saying you shouldn’t work on them, though.
It’s easier however to sit on the couch and think about your insecurities that we either cultivated ourselves or those that were imposed on us by society. But it’s a very destructive pattern.
What we need to do more is:
* Praise yourself * Read and self-develop * Place value in your labor, even when you think you failed at something. You may not have achieved something you tried to achieve, but one thing you gained – experience. Experience is just as important. * Love and accept yourself
What are your tricks to boost your self-esteem?