Excuse me for a moment while I catch an 80s vibe...
“Sunny days, everybody loves them
Tell me baby can you stand the rain?
Storms will come
This we know for sure (This we know for sure)
Can you stand the rain?”
I had such a learning moment in the gym yesterday. I had an accident 19 months ago at a gym and it has kept me from getting up on the pullup bar. Because I have been focusing on strength training for the past year, I didn’t even realize that I was letting that fear dictate my training. I’ve been afraid to do pull-ups or toes-to-bar for a long time and yesterday, I came face-to-face with that fear. I want to tell you that it was a piece of cake to get up on the rig and do pull ups. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But you know that’s not how that went down, right?
The workout was 18 minutes long and there were 7 pull-ups per round. With each pull-up, panic set in and simultaneously my brain would say you’re gonna be fine. I kept saying it “you’re going to be fine” out loud before each rep. I even asked the coach to say that when she walked by. At the end of the 18 minutes, I had done 42 pullups and I was fine. In fact, I was really proud of myself.
We all love the days when we go to the gym and set PRs and kill workouts. Those are the sunny days. But some days our courage and confidence gets tested. In that moment you have to ask yourself “can I stand the rain?”
When fears enter your heart and your mind, acknowledge the fear and get curious about it. Remember that some fear is natural and necessary. Fear can come up to keep us safe from danger. So ask yourself if you are really in danger. If you are, opt for the safer option; scale back the movement. But if the answer is no, thank the fear for being there to keep you safe and then go for it. Once you face that fear, you may even find that the confidence you’ve built will assert itself in other areas of your life too.
When is the last time you faced a fear and felt your confidence grow?