Imagine looking in the mirror everyday, and only seeing this.⠀
We all deserve to feel good, but sometimes it just isn’t that easy. Constantly feeling inadequate wreaks havoc on #mentalhealth , our relationships, our career, and our physical bodies.⠀
Self love can mean a lot of different things, but it boils down to feeling good about yourself, even if there are moments when you're disappointed, in grief or despair. Now, during grief, #selflove is an even bigger battle. However, one thing that I’ve become aware of because of grief, is that without grief, I wouldn’t be the #beautiful , strong, creative and dedicated person that I am today. There is a quote that reads “the soul would have no #rainbows if the eyes had no tears” by John Vance Cheney. What I’ve realised, is that this grief is a part of me. Grief is part of who I am, and so is discomfort, #joy , struggle, pain, playfulness, beauty and triumph. It is only by accepting all of that, that I can truly #lovemyself - and that’s something I work on every day.⠀
When I first grieved I was determined to ‘be strong’ and to be a wonder woman. I tried to be ok and for those looking from the outside in, I was probably quite convincing. But after years of struggling in this way, I still wasn’t happy. Now here I am, trying my best to be open, to truly feel and accept my emotions. I sit with grief, and it has not broken me. I realise that my grief that I have seen as some ugly baggage for so long has actually meant that I’ve treated myself like ugly baggage too. I am comprised of successes, challenges, and failures and to turn my back on any of those would be turning my back on who I am as a whole being. So instead, I chose to love me…the whole me.⠀
So many of us desperately search for ways we can sidestep our own pain, #grief , imperfection, and discomfort but the truth is that this is where we learn. This is where we grow. This is where we #love . If you only will sit and listen. Don’t run. Embrace your rainbows today 🌈 .
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