Do you ever feel like no matter what you do, your body doesn’t measure up to your own expectations? Or the expectations that society puts on you to look a certain way?
I might as well take a moment with a body picture and talk about one of the biggest pain points in my life. Not ever feeling like my body is enough... have I crushed this lie majorly? Heck yeah. Do I now appreciate & love the skin I’m in & feel enough? Yes! Most of the time at least... I’ve gone to war with self hatred and that voice that tells me to be skinnier, fitter, curvier in the right places & tighter in the in-betweens.
I’ve fallen in love with hard work, discipline, healthy eating & building strength & endurance.
But on the other hand I still get to choose daily if “I’m not enough” is going to be my motivator or if “I’m so blessed with what I have, I’m gonna push to thrive in what I’ve been given!” What I’ve learned is that befriending what I’ve been given is actually the thing that’s made me thrive. Emotionally of course, because self hatred isn’t tearing me down... but also physically, as a bi-product. Fueling my heart with good motivation and doing it from a place of knowing my self worth.
And not letting that self worth be defined by where my body is at.
Whether for you that’s overweight, underweight, scrawny, skinny fat, too muscular, whatever standard it is that you have over yourself.
All of those things whisper in the form of self hatred. A lot of times we’ve made such close friends with inadequacy because we think it will help us be a better version of ourselves. We think it’ll motivate us to get those results.
So do I still want to be fit, lean, & train hard/eat well? Heck yes! I always do. It’s not unhealthy until your heart/motivation/mindset is unhealthy.
So unconditional love is the common denominator of hitting goals in a healthy way. That looks like loving your body (or whatever the thing you’re at war with) when the conditions are wrong, as well as when they’re right,pledging to not take away love when you don’t meet your standards. But standing on love no matter what.
That’s what gets you really good results. “And you will prosper as your soul prospers”